The message is that it's OK to think or feel the way he or she does.Validation occurs when we help our spouse feel unconditionally accepted. American diplomatic and consular officers are NOT permitted to perform marriages (Title 22, Code of Federal Regulations 52.1). Inquiries regarding the validity of a marriage abroad should be directed to the attorney general of the state in the United States where the parties to the marriage live.
I have usually found that if I validate Erin, she is able to work out her own emotional problems faster than if I give her advice.
Note: Authentication may not be necessary if the country accepts an Apostille.
The embassy or tourist information bureau of the country in which the marriage is to be performed is the best source of information about marriage in that country. In addition, birth certificates, divorce decrees, and death certificates are frequently required.
Even if a solution isn't reached, employees, spouses, pretty much anybody, will feel better knowing that someone understands their point of view.
Like any tool, though, this must be handled with care.